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Hey, what's up? This is Leo for actualised.org here, and today I want to talk about the idea of resistance. And resistance robs you of a lot of your potential, even if you are already super motivated. So what is resistance? Well, I like to make an analogy between mental resistance and electrical resistance. So electrical resistance we know of as the tendency of a conductor to not want to have current flow through it. So obstruction of current through an electrical wire would be electrical resistance. Whereas the risks I'm talking about the self development type of resistance, is your resistance, your minds resistance towards thoughts and ideas, and ultimately, actions. Because what you think and what you believe, and what your ideas are your concepts, your inner game is going to influence the kind of actions that you're able to carry out in your life. So what are some things that you might be resisting? Well, how about that big project at work that's due in two weeks, or washing the dishes, or doing your homework, or having that conversation that you need to have with your loved one, or going Christmas shopping two weeks before Christmas, rather than waiting till the last day, or how about doing your taxes, or sending your resume off to another company, or maybe going to the dentist, even though you're afraid to so all these things you can be resistant to so the thing that is really interesting and kind of pernicious thing about resistance, is that it's worse with the things that you really actually want to be doing. So this is something I've noticed in myself, is that I set goals for myself, I tend to think of myself as a high achiever. I think people out there that are high achievers have this problem where you set a goal for yourself, and you create a lot of shoulds and musts for yourself. So these are things that you have to do, maybe you have to go to the gym, maybe you have to eat cleaner, maybe you have to do better at work, maybe you have to make 10 phone calls a day, if you're a marketer, or sales salesperson over the phone, you know, whatever it is, there are things that on the one hand you want. And on the other hand, you simultaneously resist. And here's the trick with resistance resistance happens, because you are creating imperatives for yourself. So think of yourself as having a higher self and a lower self. And your higher self is like the adult. So it knows what you need to be doing. It knows all the right things that should be happening. And it knows everything that's good for you. And then your lower self is that part of you that wants to stay in your comfort zone, that part of you that likes security, that doesn't like taking risks. And so it's like the kid, so it's the kid and adult relationship between your higher and lower self. And here's the problem is that when an adult comes up to a kid, and if you if you tell your kids to not do something, a lot of times, what are they going to do, they're gonna immediately just resist whatever you're telling them. And they're going to do the exact opposite just to be contrarian, just almost to spite you, even if what you say makes sense to them, even if what you say is good advice. How many times have you done that when your parents gave you advice? I know I have. It's just, I think a natural human tendency to kind of shy away from and not want to do the things that we're being forced to do. Whereas if we're giving options, and we're given options to choose, then we're much more likely to to have the drive to do it. The thing is that you do this to yourself too. So even though you have the option to work at the job that you are currently working at, or you have the option to go to the gym or not. That is that if you're if you're really punishing and repressing that lower self of yours, ironically, what you're doing is you're hurting your results. Because what's happening is that you might be moving forward in your diet or in your business or whatever it is that you're doing, you might be moving forward in that thing, you might be getting some decent results, but you're probably also feeling a lot of frustration. It might feel like a grind. And the reason it feels that way is because you're you're feeling that resistance. And now this this is such a pernicious thing. It can pervade any aspect of your life because you can literally develop resistance toward anything. You can develop resistance towards any of the things we already talked about, you can develop resistance towards personal development, which is something that I've struggled with. And what I want to talk about here is how to manage this is how to understand it and give you some tools for actually reducing it, eliminating it completely if you master some of these tools, and they're pretty simple. So, one really good example of this is, of course, going to the gym. You know, there's always that crowd around New Year's time, like January 1 through January 15, those first two weeks of the gym. So if you're a gym regular, you know that it's funny that gym gets so PAC, it's like this throng of a New Year's resolution, people come in, and they're all eager to get on the treadmills and start lifting weights and the gym is packed, the parking lot is so full, you can't even park if you're a regular, you get a bit frustrated by that. But when I see that I can't help but kind of grin and chuckle because I know that most of those people 90% of them, I probably won't see in two weeks, just because they've got that burst of initial motivation, and then it's all going to drop off. And they're gonna get develop a lot of resistance towards it. And you know, the fact is that, you know, even being on the opposite side of the fence, I go to the gym regularly. So I've been going to the gym for like seven years straight now. And even even though I think I developed a pretty strong habit of it. A lot of times, I shouldn't say a lot of times, but there are periods like weeks within the year where I really don't want to go to the gym, I really struggle with it, I have to pull myself, physically pull myself to the gym, and come up with all sorts of excuses, why not to go and sometimes I don't, sometimes I don't, and I come and I give in to that lower self. And I stay in and I veg out on the couch or whatever. But the fact is that that's a great example for how resistance works is that you, you tell yourself, this is something you should do, initially. And then when you get a little bit frustrated with the lack of results, you tell yourself, god dammit, no, this is something I'm doing something I have to do. And then from that point on, you have this very stern discipline about it. So you're always telling yourself, I have to get to the gym by a certain by certain hour. If I don't make it, I'll punish myself by doing X, Y and Z. And it's this harsh kind of discipline, which might get you some initial results, it's certainly better than being a slacker not doing anything. And just being lazy, or not even being conscious about your health. But it's not the best way to get the best results. Because in the end, there's too much, there's too much struggle there, wouldn't you ideally want to be going to the gym with a certain ease and a certain flow, where you're happy to go there, you want to go there, you're enjoying it, and you don't feel like there's any sort of grind involved? Well, that's where eliminating resistance really comes into play. So the best way that I found to eliminate resistance, there are a couple of ways I'm going to share with you really, I'm going to share two ways here. One of them is dead simple. And it might actually be the best way. And the second way is the one's a little bit more involved. And that's what I'm gonna start with. And it's called the Sedona Method. Now, the Sedona Method is great for releasing all sorts of emotions, so you can use it on anger, frustration, sadness, loneliness, all that kind of stuff. But right now, we're just going to limit Sedona Method, particularly to dealing with resistance. So with resistance, the way the Sedona Method works is like this. First of all, Sedona Method tells us that you're going to develop resistance to anything that you're telling yourself, you must do. So if you're putting a lot of pressure on yourself. And the way to eliminate that is to go through this little process, it's a, it's like a four step process that you go through, it's a mental process, you do it in your head, it takes just a couple of minutes to do. And what it does is it removes the emotional blocks that you have with that resistance. Because resistance is not a conceptual thing. Resistance is a feeling when I'm talking about resistance, this is something that you feel very, very deeply, like in your body when you're resisting something. So let's say you're sitting there on the couch, and you know that it's time to go to the gym, it's your usual time, you should be getting up right now putting on your gym clothes and heading in. Well, now, if you're resistant to it, if this is something that you've been struggling with, then the way it's going to feel to you is it's going to feel like this heavy tension in your body. It's gonna be like, oh, man, I really don't want to do that. Like why does it have to be so difficult? Why is it always so frustrating? Why me, it's this kind of victimization that you have. And ultimately, it leads to a lot of frustration also leads to guilt. Because what happens is when you're feeling that kind of resistance, and you're on that verge, where you can go, you can slide one way or the other so you can kind of side with your higher self or your lower self. When you side with your higher self. You're going to go to the gym, and you're going to do your workout, but you're also going to have a lot of struggle and frustration while you're doing it. So it's going to feel very labored. If you side with your lower self, what's gonna happen is you're gonna not go to the gym in this case, and you're gonna feel very guilty about it. Right because You're always your Higher Self still is there, it's still telling you, I should have gone, the next day you might still be, you might still be feeling bad for not having gone the other day. And over time, if you develop this kind of negative habit of siding with your lower self, you get into more and more guilt, you get into more and more frustration. And it really becomes difficult to actually do stuff that you want to do. It robs you of a lot of your potential. So this is where Sid, is going to really come in and help you. So what is the data method? Like I said, it's really an inner game tool. And it's a series of questions that you want to ask yourself. Now why I was talking about resistance being a feeling is because Sedona Method works with feelings. So what you want to do, to try this method out, is, is very simple. You want to first of all step one is you want to get in touch with your feeling of resistance. So in this case, let's say you're sitting on the couch, and you're you're looking to go out to the gym, and you're kind of on that cusp of which way do I side? Do I go? Or do I not go? Man, I really don't want to go. But on the other hand, man, I really, I really gotta go, or I'm going to regret it tomorrow. So get in touch with that feeling and really feel it. So don't try to run away from it. Just let it kind of soak into your body. That's step one. So you're feeling it now. Good. Step two Sedona Method is you're going to ask yourself a question. This is all the questions that you ask in Sedona are silent questions. So you're just talking in your head, basically. And the question that you ask there is, could I let this go? Could I let this feeling go? And you're going to ask yourself that question, and I want you to really think about it, and ponder that. And ask yourself, if you were really pinned down if I had a gun to your head right now, and I said, you have to let go of this feeling of resistance? Or I'm going to pull that trigger? Would you be able to let it go? Now this is kind of a yes or no Yes or No? Question. So that's how you answer you. Either you answer with a yes. Or you answer with a no, either answer is fine. But make sure that you really think through it, because the point of Sedona is that it's asking you these questions, and it wants you to come up with the answers. And as you come up with the answers, you're gonna experience a release of emotion and release a feeling. So in this case, like one little trick that I like to do, is I like to think when I ask this question, I like to think to myself, you know, if I was a master Jedi, or if I was a Zen Buddhist monk, or maybe I was a Greek, stoic, could I just let this feeling of going to the gym go? After all, it's just like, it's a pretty, pretty petty feeling. If you think about it, right? We're talking about going to the gym, what is that in the grand scheme of things? Not really very significant? Could I just let that go? And what I find is that I almost always come up with the answer. Yes. And I think if you rehearse this, this process, you're gonna have to try it out a couple of times. If you rehearse the if you rehearse, and you really think about it, your answer to that first question, could I let this feeling go? is always going to be yes. And and that's good. So you just say that to yourself, and then you go on to step number two. Now, if you're so resistant, if you're so caught up in these emotions and these feelings of not wanting to go to the gym, that you can't imagine a possible scenario where you could let that feeling go than answer no, by all means. Don't fake your way through these through these questions. And what you'll find is that that is also actually going to lead to a reduction of feelings, because you're acknowledging the fact that you want to hold on to this resistance. The fact of the matter is, is that you always have the option to let it go. Sometimes you're just much more caught up and identified with your emotions than other times. So sometimes it's easy to let it go, sometimes it's hard to let it go. But with Sedona, this is a process that you can go through that's almost always going to guarantee that you're going to get a reduction in the strength of the feelings and the emotions, even if you're resisting using Sedona, so just plow through it. So that was step number one. Step number two, will actually look back up. Step number one was just feeling the emotion. Step number two was asking yourself, How could I let this go? Step number three now is asking yourself the silent question. Would I like to let it go? So this is a slightly different question. Here. What we're asking is really, what are you? What would you like to do you know that you could let it go if you wanted to, but that's still not the same thing as actually wanting to let it go. So let's say you said Yeah, if I was, if I was Obi Wan Kenobi, I could let this resistance go. Now we're asking yourself ourselves, if now that we know now that I have recognized that I can let it go in theory, do I actually want to let it go in practice? And that another way to phrase that quote Question is like this? Do I want to stay identified with this emotion of resistance? Or do I want to be at peace? Would I rather be disturbed by this emotion? or would I rather be impenetrable? And that's a choice. So actually ask yourself this, which, which of those two would you want to side with? And again, if you really think it through, usually you're going to come up with the answer. Yes. And, of course, it's still possible that you might come up with the answer, no. And that will happen when you've got a really strong emotion if you're very resistant to something. So let's say you did say, No, that's still perfectly acceptable, it's still going to lead to a reduction in the feeling. So that was step number three, right? You ask yourself, would I like to let this go? And the final step, step number four, is to ask yourself, when would I like to let this go? So here, this is pretty easy. If you've answered yes to the first two, then you're gonna just weren't going to want to ask yourself. Now I recognize that I can let it go. And now I've made a decision that I would rather be imperturbable rather than being disturbed by this emotion. So I've made the choice to let it go. And now the question is, when? So the best answer is right now, right? Because why stay bothered by something that that is that is hindering you for longer than you have to, and you can always let go immediately. So there's no, there's never any reason to hold on to something unless you want to. So if you said that you don't want to hold on to it, then make a decision as to when you want to stop holding on. So usually, the best answer is right now. You can also answer no, you know, you could say, I'm not, I'm not ready to let go of this right. Now I'm gonna hold on to it, you probably won't say it like that, you'll probably just say, No, it's impossible to let this go. And that's fine. That means you're just very, very identified with that emotion. So stay that way. Even with the answer of never, even if you answer, never, I'm never letting this go, That guy screwed me over. Whatever I have to get to the gym, I have to be at a certain weight by certain by a certain day of the month or other shoot myself, whatever it is, if you're that committed to it, then you're probably going to say never, I'm never going to let it go. Fine. Stay with that. So you're gonna go through those steps, one through four, and you're gonna find that each of those steps that you go through is going to lead to a slight reduction in the intensity of your resistance. And that is going to complete one cycle of the Sedona Method. Now, the trick is that you have to run this cycle multiple times on every instance of resistance that comes up for you. The nice thing about it, though, is that once you do run it a couple times, you're going to substantially reduce that resistance. And a lot of times those gains are permanent. So this is not something that you have to do forever for the rest of your life. But it's something that you're gonna get immediate results from. So it might take two minutes to run through this through through the full process. Now the full process is going to take, typically, I like to say four cycles. If you just take what I what we went through right here, those four questions, those are one cycle. So you just complete that one cycle, and then you immediately go back in and you start again. So by starting again, I mean, again, you ask yourself, Okay, what am I feeling right now about going to the gym, okay? I have some lingering resistance, let's say I have 90% of that original resistance left, okay, so you want to identify with it, get it, get a feeling for it in your body, get a sense of why don't want to go to the gym, and then go right into the next question, go into the first question, which is, could I let this go? Then go to the second question. Would I let this go? And then go to the third question, when would I like to let this go. And so that completes cycle two, then you go through and you do cycle three, and then you do like a four. So you go through a four times every cycle that you go through, you're gonna notice, maybe a subtle, maybe a great reduction in the resistance, it might take one or two cycles to really take the bite out of that emotion. On the other hand, it might take five, maybe six cycles, and maybe you have to do do it a couple times throughout the day, as this resistance is coming up for you, but eventually, you'll notice that you get substantial reduction. Now, this is a technique, a mental technique that you can use to work on your emotions, to release emotions, specifically with resistance. And like all techniques, it's a tool. So you're gonna find that when you start using it, you're Gonna be rusty. And there's going to be some common common problems that you can make using Sedona, which actually, I've gone through and I've detailed more in depth in the article, I don't want to do that right now on video. So be sure to read through those common common pitfalls that people experienced with Sedona. But I guess the two points that I really want to stress, the couple of points that I want to stress about that is, number one, give it a chance, it sounds kind of hokey science kind of new age and silly that you know, you can have an emotion and then you can just let it go. Before you are too quick to judge a book by its cover. In this case, I really want to urge you to try it out. Because like everybody else, I think that encounters this method. At first, it seems so simplistic, that there's no way that it could work. And there's no way that it can work for serious problems. Fact is that I've tried it, I was skeptical at first. But once you use it, you use it for days for a few for a few days, use it on a couple of problems, and you use it for a few weeks, then you maybe use it for a month, you start to really notice the effects, and you start to see how powerful it really is it kind of blows your mind. So definitely give it a shot. Don't be too judgmental about it at the outset. The other point that I want to make is go through all the cycles. So there's this tendency, at least I had this tendency of where I went through one cycle, and then I expected this immediate release, and I didn't get it. And then what happened is I tended to cast judgment on the method, I said, Nah, this, this is nonsense, the Sedona stuff doesn't work, it's a bunch of BS. And what you have to do is you really have to go through it three or four times, three or four times is enough that you actually are going to start to feel a reduction in, in in that resistance. So what's literally gonna happen is, you're gonna not be able to do that step number one, right, because step number one instead of what it asks you to, to identify with the feeling. And what happens is, when you go through each cycle, that feeling is going to dissipate to the point where you go through maybe three or four cycles, and then you try to maybe go into that fifth cycle, and it's almost going to be impossible, because you're not gonna be able to do that first step, that first step is telling you to identify with the feeling, but that feeling is gone, because you've gradually knocked it down. And what you're going to find yourself doing is actually going to find yourself struggling to get into step one, once you get you know, very, very adept at using Sedona, you're going to find it, you're gonna find it a struggle, because you're like, Okay, I want to do one more cycle, let me do a fifth cycle. And you're gonna find that it's hard because at this point, the feeling, you only have a vague memory of it. It's only an abstraction, it's not a real feeling, it doesn't have that hold over you that it used to have. So those are some of the some of the very common kind of caveats that I'll give for using Sedona. I really encourage you to try this technique out, because it's so powerful, it will let you get through your frustrations and unleash unblock some of those some of those grindy areas in your life. So think about it right now. You know what, what parts of your life? Are you encountering a lot of struggling? Is it maybe at work? Is that maybe with your diet? And how you're eating? Is it maybe with gym, like we talked about? Is it maybe with developing a certain skill set within yourself? Maybe you want to become a better public speaker? Maybe you want to learn stand up comedy, maybe whatever it is that you want to do? Are you resisting that? Where Where else could you have kind of a grind in your life, think about that, it's going to be very palpable, chances are you're probably going to pinpoint a couple of areas. And this applies, it's gonna apply to anything. In fact, one place where it most definitely applies is actually with Sedona Method itself. One common problem with Sedona is that you can tend to have resistance towards actually using Sedona to remove resistance from other things. So just like anything else, you can develop a resistance towards something, when you tell yourself that you have to do it. So if you tell yourself right now, after watching this video that I'm gonna go and use Sedona from now on and everything and then I have to use Sedona all the time, and I have to be perfect at it. You're gonna put a lot of pressure on yourself. And actually, that's going to create some some backwards momentum, it's going to hold you back. So watch out for that. And what's the solution there? Well, you can actually use Sedona Method to release on having resistance to the Sedona Method, kind of an interesting little catch 22 How you can do that. So definitely watch out for that. Once you have acquainted yourself with Sedona and you find yourself using it and then it's working well for you. Watch out for that resistance because it'll probably creep up for you the way it did for me. Beyond Sedona Method, what else do I want to say about resistance? I think as actually writing the article below, reading this article on resistance, you know, I went through all the points that I wanted to make, I wrote it out. And then I had kind of an epiphany while I was meditating, I had this epiphany that a lot of the stuff in my life would go a lot smoother, and I would actually get a lot better results at it, if I took the pressure off of myself for having to do it, too, the problem is, I tend to put a lot of pressure on myself to be self developed. And I put a lot of pressure on myself to learn and to improve every day, and to get a certain amount of work done every day, and to hit the gym and, and to eat well, so a lot of pressure on being perfect, and on getting success and being being getting achievement in life. And what I find is that intuitively, you tend to rationalize it to yourself, your high achiever at least, that putting more pressure on yourself is going to lead to more results, more success, right. So you kind of tend to whip and sell flagellate to get yourself going to get yourself motivated. But this epiphany that I had was that I kind of realized I'm like, Oh, shit, that's self flagellation, that I'm doing all the time. I mean, it works to some extent, but it's starting to backfire on me, because I'm noticing that I'm having difficulty going to the gym. And even though I'm going and I'm still getting decent results, I'm starting to resent it, and I'm starting to hate it. And that animosity that's building up over time, that's not a healthy thing. And I don't know how sustainable that is, eventually, it might lead to me quitting the gym. So in that case, like I really realized how I was about that. That push that I was making to be successful, was not serving me as well, as if I just kind of let things breathe. Now, the scary thing about letting things breathe is that you'll tend to tell yourself that, well, if I just let this go, if I'm not disciplined, then I'll just be a couch potato, I'm going to slack off on it, put all that weight back on. And so that's a little bit tricky. And that might be true, actually, at first, is that that very harsh discipline that you have that might be holding you in place right now. But see, sometimes you have to take a step backwards, before you can move forwards. And that's kind of the case here is that you might need to actually be able to sacrifice slacking off at the gym a little bit. So that you can rebound and get back on the horse. This is what I found is that usually, when I'm when I'm developing, when I'm developing mastering something, when I'm becoming good at something, the way it happens is not through just a constant, beating myself up and whipping myself into shape. What happens is that initially, I'm lazy about it or I'm negligent, then I have to use a lot of discipline. So I kind of swing my pendulum to the other side where I'm very harsh with myself. And then I find that that gets me some decent results. But then I find that I've gone a little too far and that there's too much resistance, and too much grind involved with everything. So I tend to swing the pendulum the other way, even though I'm afraid, I finally swing my pendulum the other way. And I say fine, I'll just go back to being lazy again. And then you go back to being lazy. And then you do that for a little bit. And you're like, you know what I don't, this lazy thing doesn't work for me either. So now you have a choice. Now you could swing your pendulum again, to the totally opposite side and use a lot of harsh discipline. Or you have the choice of saying yourself, hmm, okay. So laziness doesn't work, the harsh discipline stuff tends to backfire. It's not sustainable for forever. So there must be a happy balance somewhere. And you tend to find something in between that works well for you. And you tend to actually get the best results when you're in that middle zone. Because you're first of all, you're recognizing that you have two sides, you have your higher self and you have your lower self. And they both have legitimate concerns, the higher self cannot always just dominate the lower self, that will backfire. And then again, of course, the lower self can always win over the higher self, because then you're not achieving, you're feeling guilty. You're not living your potential. You're really not sharing your gifts with the world. And you're not being who you could really be. So those that's a good way that I like to think about resistance is just it's actually letting go of it is actually important for your results, even though in the short term, you might suffer a little bit. So really ask yourself the question, are you more concerned about the short term gains, or are you more more interested in getting a very stable solid law? Long term improvement, or achievement or whatever it is that you're doing, like really locking that in. So if you're going to the gym, wouldn't it be awesome to, to get rid of that yo yo that you have where one week you love it, the next week you hate it when the next week you love it the next week you hate, it wouldn't be nice to kind of even that out and just have a smooth and steady habit. And it's not something that you're really forcing yourself to do. But it's something that you enjoy. I think that's, that's one of my goals, with everything that I do is to start to really see that I have a lot of areas in my life where I'm doing that up and down, up and down. And I want to smooth that out. And that's gonna get me much better results. Another point about resistance, I have some notes here that I'm using, because there's such a long article. And there's a lot of good stuff here. What you really don't want to do is avoid your feelings when you run away from your struggles. Ironically, that tends to it's kind of like sweeping a problem under the rug, it tends to fester. And it tends to just go rancid and stink and comes back to you in the end. So in the short term that might be a good good solution is to just kind of stick your head in the sand, not look at you're not looking at resistance, not look at your problems. But a long run, it's not very good. In fact, a very good way of removing a lot of resistance in your life is just allowing yourself to feel whatever it is that you're feeling. So let's say you're resistant right now about going to the gym. The thing that really makes that resistance bad. If you if you kind of toy around with this for a while, you'll realize that what makes it so awful is the fact that you're actually resisting the resistance. You're not allowing yourself to feel bad. You can feel bad about something and be accepting of it. And you can also feel bad about something and resisting when you feel bad. And you tell yourself, man, why do I feel so bad, this is not the way life is supposed to be I'm not supposed to feel bad, I'm supposed to feel good all the time. That's a surefire way of really creating heavy heavy resistance for yourself. So a great method. If you're, for example, resisting going to the gym is just saying you know what? I'm feeling shitty right now. Because the other day I was having problems with going to the gym a few days before that I skipped a few days. And I'm probably gonna go in today, it's not going to be so great. And right now I'm sitting here I'm struggling, it's really a struggle to decide whether I'm gonna stay in or what I'm gonna go out. I don't know, it might go either way. I feel a little bit drained of energy, a little drain on willpower. So I can't even trust myself to make the high kind of the high consciousness, the higher self decision, I might have to side with my lower self, and I don't want to do that. But you know what? That's okay. See, I'm accepting of it in that case, whereas, and that dissipates a lot of resistance counter intuitively. Whereas, intuitively, what you would want to do is you'd want to say, No, this was this is horrible, I'm going to get rid of resistance by using the Sedona Method, and resistance is never going to come up for me again, I should always feel awesome. If you take that route, well, you can kind of see what's going to happen is that you're gonna set expectations for yourself that are not realistic, first of all. And second of all, you're just not acknowledging the fact that matter that there is this, this seesaw effect going on, and that it's okay, to be resistant. At times, the best way to get out of resistance is just to accept that you have resistance, and then it sort of fixes itself. Kind of interesting. So you make things a lot worse, by by kind of egging yourself on, and setting up a lot of high expectations for yourself. So I mentioned that there were two methods here for removing resistance. I really went in depth on Sedona Method, I think it's an excellent tool, I definitely encourage you to try it out. And then just accepting of your resistance. You can accept your resistance by asking a question of yourself such as, could I allow myself to feel resistant right now, that's really kind of an extension of Sedona. They're very, they're very subtle ways that you can do Sedona that I'll cover in the future in other articles. But I did start off by saying that there is one other way and in fact, I said that maybe it's the best. Well, the best way that I know how to get rid of resistance is just through action. It's very simple. I call it the JUST DO IT method. I mean, ultimately, it's sometimes I just think that all of self development can be involved self help or self development, it just be boiled down to one thing, which is just just do it, you know, whatever it is you need to do just do that, do that frequent thing, and you won't have any problems. Of course, easier said than done, right. So the great thing about the JUST DO IT method is that you don't need a lot of you don't need a lot of thinking, if you're the kind of person that doesn't like to think and rationalize everything and dissect everything and analyze the way that I do, well, then just pure action might be the best thing for you, and just kind of kicking yourself into gear, and literally forcing yourself to take action. A lot of times, that's, that's the best way to solve all your problems in life is through action, right? Sometimes, if you think there if you sit down and think you can think yourself into a pit of despair, and sometimes it's hardest hard to think your way out of out of a hole, much easier to climb your way out just by starting to climb. Here's the thing with the, with the with the JUST DO IT method is that as simple as it is, it's also highly effective. And the way that I the way that I really use it is, you know, you literally can use your body to get your mind into motion. So the way that uh, let's use an example, let's say we're talking about that gym example again, right? If you're sitting there on the couch, and you're using the JUST DO IT method, if you're using Sedona Method, you should sit there and spend five minutes going through all the cycles, if you're using the JUST DO IT method, then you cut your mind off, you don't even think because when you're sitting there on that couch, you're thinking all sorts of stupid stuff. You're thinking like, oh, man, I gotta put my sneakers on, I gotta go change that I gotta get in my car, I gotta get my gym towel out of the laundry, then I gotta, I gotta get my protein shake going, then I gotta get to the gym, then I gotta wait for somebody to get off my machine, I got to do my benchpress then I got to do my squats, then I got to do my curls, and I gotta do my cardio. So you build up this massive pile of stuff you got to do. And of course, of course, you're gonna resist doing that you just visualized all the nasty stuff that you're going to do so negative, that you're building up too much. So with just a method, you cut all that crap, and you start forcing your body. And you you stay very present and in the moment. So you force your body to just get off the couch. Next step, walk over, grab your car keys. Next step, put on your sneakers robotically. Next step, just walk out the door. Next step, get in your car, next step, drive to the gym. Next step, just walk through that gym door and go to your machine and just start moving away. And usually by that time, you kind of get in the flow and stuff starts going. So with a just do what method you're really relying on. Using your body to kind of brute force your way through the problem can be great. I mean, it works, it's super simple. So if that's the best method for you go go ahead and use it. Try using Sedona and see how that compares to how the two compare. The thing was Sedona and the reason I went into such details, I think it gives you a lot more leverage than just do it method. Just do it method is kind of common sense. And you can develop some skill and using it actually, I think most people don't really know how to use the adjustment method properly. Like they haven't really condition and discipline themselves to actually move their body to get their emotions up and to get get themselves motivated. But with Sedona, you get a lot of leverage. So the just do the method, you need a lot of willpower to get that process started with Sedona Method, you also need some willpower, but I think you get a lot more bang for your buck when you expend willpower on Sedona, so don't only takes two minutes. The other nice thing about Sedona is that it can be done anywhere at any time, you can also do an immediate be done immediately. So with the JUST DO IT method, you know, if we're talking about going to the gym, well, that's, that's something you just have to start doing. Whereas Sedona Method, that's something you can do throughout any part of your day. So let's say you're resistant to going to the gym in the morning, well, and normally you go to the gym in the evening, so in the morning, you wake up and you're already having resistance going into the gym, but you're gonna go like at six 6pm. So right in the morning, you can already use the doughnut to release a lot of that resistance and feel good throughout that day. You just going to spend two minutes going through those cycles like I like I talked about, and that resistant feeling will dissipate with just do it method while you're gonna have to wait the whole day to start doing it. And you're still going to feel a lot of those emotions. So Sedona Method is nice in that regard. Also, Sedona Method can be done. Very especially once you get good at it can be done while you're doing other stuff. So, if you're going to pick up the kids, if you're driving in the car, if you're waiting on the phone, if you're waiting in line to buy groceries, even if you're at the gym, doing cardio, you know you're walking the dog, whatever it is you're doing, not everything but stuff that doesn't require too much of your attention. Um, you can, you can use the donuts release on all the resistance in all the different things that you have in your life. So that's why I like Sedona, I really encourage you to look into it, I'm gonna have more in depth articles on how to use Sedona to release other emotions like anger, fear, frustration, sadness, all those, I think it's a really powerful method I've been experimenting with with it. I've known about it for maybe a year now. And I've been experimenting with it on and off, I've been getting into it a little bit more now. And I'm getting some some pretty good results, I really like it. And if you want to know more about Sedona, there's more, there's more method to that madness, so to speak. There's more details there. So you can pick up one of their books. It's called The Sedona Method by Hale Dwoskin. And you can get that on, on the links that I have down below in the article. You can also get it on Amazon. And then you can also order audio and video courses from sedona.com. And they have some some amazing programs I've lived I've watched some of those and I've gotten a lot of benefit from them. That's kind of where, what that's the source of my information to you about the resistance is really from the Sedona Method. So I really encourage you to get get your feet wet. start using it right now pick something right now that you're resistant about and apply those four or five steps that I talked about. Read through the article. There's more details there about how to do everything properly, how to avoid all the common mistakes. And that's it for now. I encourage you to use Sedona and peace out